When You Don’t Fit the Mold

Hey Girl, the Podcast, Episode 3

Are you part of the popular crowd or are you a loner? Do you make friends easily or do you have a hard time finding your people? I get it. I’ve spent most of my life not fitting in—or at least I’ve felt like I didn’t. I have often tried to adjust myself to be like others because I equated being different with being wrong or broken in some way. Do you ever feel that way?

When I became friends with Tanzy Chandler I was immediately drawn to her calm and quiet demeanor as well as her gentle acceptance of others. But this acceptance that she extends to us, she was not always able to extend to herself. If you meet her today you will see a strong, confident and beautiful woman who has a huge social media presence and a powerful, motivational fitness ministry. But there was a time in Tanzy’s life when none of this was possible. She was a young pastor’s wife and mother trying to be all things to all people, but quickly Tanzy learned that it’s only when we stop trying to be like others—and stop trying to live up to standards set by others-- that we discover who God made us to be and that discovery may free us to be more than we ever imagined! Inserting ourselves into roles that weren’t meant for us is like forcing square pegs into round holes; we may fit, but not without sustaining damage.